I have one piece of advice for the perfect wedding. Seriously. One mindset to sustain you throughout months of seat allocations, chasing RSVPs, fittings, tastings, and endless details. I found it online, but it perfectly sums it up:
A wedding is a party, not a performance.
If at the end of the day,
you are married to the one you love,
then everything went perfectly.
Now, don't get me wrong: I llurrrrvveee a great party, beautiful details and immaculate planning. But when it comes down to it, if your fairy lights - AKA your only light source for the evening - short circuit the night before (yep, that's happened to me), or it buckets down rain and your ceremony venue is a quagmire, or if the flower girl starts sobbing and refuses to walk down the aisle, or even if you stack it half way down the aisle and end up with a tear in your dress (or suit!): it's going to be OK.
Repeat it with me: It's going to be OK!
These are the kinds of things you'll laugh about in years to come. It may take a few years, but eventually it will become one of those golden memories to tell your grandkids - or the homeless person in the street. Whatever. I'm not judging. All I'm saying is that the most important part of a wedding day is the bit where you get married. The bit where you're standing up there with the person of your dreams, surrounded by the people you love, saying 'I do' The rest is just tradition and a big ol' party.
So if you're getting stressed out by it all: all the planning, all the coordinating, all the options - just take a deep breath and remember what's most important: if at the end of the day, you're married to the one you love, then everything went perfectly.
BONUS: Your celebrant should be able to help make the ceremony a breeze as well. So if you want to chat about your ceremony options, give me a yell.